Sunday, April 14, 2013

March 16 - 31 - Potts Newsletter - Link's Death and Funeral

March 16 - 31 - Potts Newsletter - Link's Death and Funeral  (Many, many, many pictures!)


                                                Kezia swinging in her basement
                                                        Dan took charge of the breakfasts
                                                  McKinley made a banana cell phone

                                                 Lena knew just what to do and say
                           Sorry this is horizontal...I must learn more.  This is our beloved painting


                                     Heidi spent hours and hours on Link's slideshow

                                           decorating eggs




 This is the book that Trisha wrote about Link for Heidi...such a labor of love and a miracle that it came on time!!

                                      Trisha took care of the nails project
                                     G G and Uncle Burton. Mom thought a lot about Bart when Heidi lost Link
                            Dan coming back from his run
 Grandma Devenish is busy hand sewing

Great Uncle Burton with little Spencer


 The beautiful Llardo statue from Toni and family

 Trisha is always serving and doing all she can for Heidi and family

 Display table at the viewing/funeral



 Saying our last goodbyes on earth
 A sweet and amazing drawing by Kalli
 Cindy keeping the kids occupied at the graveside
 Kezia is "stuffing her face" with a brownie
 Easter morning surprises. We are all so thankful or the Resurrection



 Letter to Link
 Graveside memories
 We went to Zions National a few days after the funeral with Bill, Jason's dad from Texas





 Camary hanging in there with Kezia


Once a tree climber...always a tree climber-- Michael






 Tea anyone?  Cindy bought a tea set and became Brittish as she served

 Link's program (I still can't figure out how to
change positions from here)





 Kezia spends a quiet moment with Link

 Always a great reader Cindy not only read this book to the kids but made it come alive with a tea party


 Cindy helped the kids build a Fairy garden, house and all.  Isn't she beautiful?

I found this picture in my phone...just wanted to share 
 Dan's gift of love

 Link and Maddy
Shopping with Spencer     
A house warming basket for Trisha and Darrin
 A random picture I found when I was a teller and pregnant with Cindy
 Another oldie goldie photo.  Dan taught his girls to fish young
 This is the day Margaret was sealed to her deceased husband, Bjorn. Salt Lake Temple
 Parker on a shopping day
 The kids love to be around Adam

 Trisha gave the Link book to Heidi












 Playing paper dolls in McKinley's play centers

 McKinley puzzling things out
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 A memory box we found at the store


 Making cheerios  necklaces



 She ain't heavy, she's my cousin!!



 Making paper hats

 McKinley and Ireland's school teachers made them (and Kezia) soft, fuzzy, personally initialed blankets.  In turn they each got a tour of the house

 Blanket city
 Kezia asked me to take this picture and include it


 Trisha and Darrin hosted a Sunday dinner in their new house
 Birthday fun or Spencer

 This is the gift from our neighbors...the same painting as Heidi's






FAMILY
Yikes! We left the freezer open all night! 
  1. We had our big Easter dinner, FHE and egg hunt.  It all turned out very well.  Mom, Cindy and Donna came as well as Trisha, Cindy and families
  1. Loosing LINK (My thoughts aren't all in the right order and I'm sure i forgot or missed things...please forgive me)


26- when I answered the phone it was hard to tell that it was Heidi.  She cried as she explained that Link had taken his nap and when she went to check on him she found him on with his face down and he was blue.  The paramedics came and took him away in the ambulance.  Later she learned that he had died even before the paramedics came.  Heidi and I prayed and she begged God to help him breath    How can it be that he is gone? Such a pure, beloved little boy.  He had lived through so much pain, so much of life in so little time.  I believe that he spent more time with his mom and dad than any little one had with his parents in a year.

Dan and I are on our way to cedar city to be with Heidi and her family.  Thoughts ripple through my mind...the pain of Heidi having to stop nursing too soon...Ireland's bond with Link because she always wanted to be with him...Jason loosing his son...just a few of the reason I continue to use Kleenex after Kleenex... Kindness of joseph helping me get ready to go...friends who have put our names in at the temple...many calls and concern...holIowness...sadness

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The last few days have been a blurr...family in and out...flowers arriving ..many people bringing food and flowers and hugs.  This morning I woke with a headache and a nightmare and sobbing.  My heart breaks all over again as I think of going today to help dress little Links body.  I keep thinking of the moment when Heidi found him face down.  She had been with him just 2 1/2 hours earlier.
She has videos....many happy videos of him and probably 1,000 pictures from his short 4 1/2 month life.  Oh, how my heart aches.  I can only imagine their pain.
I wonder if Link knew before he came here just how short his little life would be.  I wonder if a part of him knew when he would take his last breath.  Heidi showed me a picture of him taken the day before he died.  His eyes hold so much love and they were so intense as if he had so much to say and as if he knew so much.  
Now he is gone and we are here left to wait and pray and yearn for him.
Heidi is preparing a display for the funeral.  There are pictures and little toys and memories o him.  There are some little shoes...all of it brings fresh tears laced with the knowledge I have of life after death.  Experiences with my brother Bart and with my grandpa that assure me that he is yet alive and will be waiting for another place and another time to reunite with his beloved family... in the meantime we will have to learn to let these pictures and memoirs be enough though they will hardly fill the hole in our hearts so we will have to turn to our brother Jesus to help make up the difference.

My Thoughts ramble like wind in the grass tossing the elements to and fro in an endless effort to find peace...yet knowing that sometime there will be peace, there will be still and there will be warmth and light again. My thoughts ramble like waves in the ocean refusing to be still...yet knowing that the master of ocean and earth and skies will calm the tempest and bring peace

Heidi has posted her love, her tears, her thoughts and memories of this time in an amazingly insightful way, so has Trisha:

The funeral was beautiful.  So many people came and filled the chapel.  Jason shared memories with Link and the Bishop, Stake President and others spoke.  The display the girls put together was perfect.  The dresses the girls and Heidi wore were so beautiful topped with "the sisters" touches and Jason looked handsome in his new suit. The mortuary did a beautiful job.  Everything for the day Jason, his mom an brother helped dress his body to the "angel pins" that were given just before closing the casket. 

The support and love that was shown by everyone was amazing.  

Cindy and Michael and Joshua I stayed for about 5 days after the funeral to help.  Heidi and Jason took 2 1/2 days to go to St. George to go to the temple and have time to talk, to grieve and to begin to rebuild their lives.  Cindy and I did many activities with the girls (especially since the family was on a media fast to prepare for General Conference.)  We posted many pictures from our activities. One of them is of Kezia when she sat on the little table and cuddled up to the shadow box of link that the sisters made.  Another day she found a funeral program and sat by herself looking at all the pictures and touching them.  Ireland and McKinley both stated that Link is in heaven and we will be with him again.  If Ireland caught us crying she would reach up and brush away the tears. 

I do remember a moment that happened before the funeral when I put Spencer in the exersaucer and fed him bread bits. That was one of Link's favorite things and I wished I hadn't used it. 

The neighbors were so kind.  They brought food, a cooler full of drinks and greatest of all a painting of Jesus holding a little baby the looked like Link (the amazing thing about that also was that our sweet neighbors gave us the same painting!!)  There was money and flowers, cards and hugs that poured in from everywhere as Heidi worked on the slideshow and the funeral program.

The funeral was on Monday and we loft Friday afternoon.  Cindy was the driver as we headed North with a prayer that our sweet Hamilton family will receive extra angel help (including Link) and lots of it.

Additional notes: My friend Margaret, came all the way from Salt Lake to be there, Tiff from Minnesota, Lena (who lost their twins) from almost 2 hours away, their friend Molly( who lost their 2 year old) from Park City, Bill, his Dad from Texas...and on and on...

another note: Trisha took nearly 2 days and put together a priceless book for Heidi and Jason.  That was a miracle. The other miracle was that it actually arrived before the viewing!!!!!

another note: There was an amazingly incredible rainbow that appeared the day of the funeral bringing the promise of better times.
DAN
  1. Dan and I went to Mark Dean's birthday/retirement party.  It was wonderful. 
  2. Joseph made us a yummy dinner for our anniversary.  Thanks Josephgi
  3. Dan and I went to his work for our wellness check up.  We are both quite healthy.
  4. Dinner at Doug and Darla's and Dan did their taxes
  1. For our date we rented skis for Dan, went to Marie Callendars for dinner then took mom's favorite pie to her and played IMAGINEIFF.  It was fun.
  1. Dan and Joseph went skiing at Brighton
PATRICIA
  1. I had a flu--like thing going on in the morning and I had to leave Sacrament meeting early.
  1. I made an anniversary breakfast.  After exercising with Margaret we worked on my cruise clothes then I gave her a massage.  :)  I went visit teaching. I finished listening to THE LOOKING GLASS by Richard Paul Evans
  1. After m wellness check up I took Trax back to Murray.  That was a different experience :)
  2. Darla stopped by and we did a neck massage  trade!
  1. Helped Cindy at her school
  1. I bought food storage for 2 days at walmart and all a dollar.
  2. I went with the Allens to Margarets sealing at the temple. It was a beautiful morning.
     
CINDY
  1. Trouble with lice at her school and also she has been sick for about a week.
  1. Cindy and I had a neck/shoulder massage trade.  It was great
  1. April 5- Cindy came after Link died and helped with flowers, display and everything before the funeral and then stayed many days afterward with me to help Heidi and Jason
HEIDI
Heidi and Jason have just gone through the most difficult time of their lives.  After Links death (see above and the obituarty there was so much to do before the funeral.  From choosing the casket to helping dress Link's body to writing the obituary to getting clothes for the event and the huge task of gathering things for the display and creating a slideshow that took hours and hours and hours and more than one box of kleenex.  It was used for the display for the people attending the viewing.
Somehow the day came.  It was a beautiful spring day and the chapel nearly filled with friends and family.  The display the girls put together and the pins they made with forget me not flowers was beautiful.  The funeral was wonderful. From Jason's memories to the Stake President's  "thoughts from Link."  The viewing before hand had many loving people and many tears. 
Special helpers included Lena and he husband Leif who drove 2 hours  and stayed for 2 days before the funeral.  Leif helped with the kids and Lena helped us know how we could help.  They were there and blessing us.  Molly and her husband who lost their little girl came from Park City and stayed much of the day, giving understanding and solace to Heidi and Jason. My brother, Burton, came from Idaho and Mom brought her own kind of understanding because she lost 7 year old Bart.
Many family members stayed to be with the family on Saturday.  Sunday was Easter and by Sunday afternoon everyone needed to get back except Cindy and I.

TIFFANY
  1. We got to skype with Tiff, Adam and Maddy
  2. Tiff and Adam and Maddy left the night we lost Link.  They were here and helping the very next day. Tiff helped put on Heidi's make-up. She helped tirelessly with the display and anything else Heidi needed.  Tiff and Adam from Minnesota and Bill (Jason's dad) came from the farthest away.   Thanks Tiff and Adam.
TRISHA
  1. Trisha and her family left right away to be here with Heidi.  Trisha worked 24/7 on a book about Link prior to coming.  It was such a labor of love and such a beautiful tribute… the miracle was that she was told there was no way the book could arrive in time for the funeral but miraculously is came the day before and was such a beautiful addition to the viewing/funeral day.
In addition to this Trisha fixed hair ,painted nails, helped with the display and organized many parts of the funeral day.
JOSEPH
  1. Joseph has been fishing the past 3 days.  He has caught and eaten catfish with Shelisa, trout with us and has  declared that this week since he has no school it will be FISHING WEEK!!  He also had Shelisa cut his hair into a mohawk.
  1. Thanks for making us dinner for our anniversary
  2. Dan and Joseph went skiing at Brighton
  3. Shelisa joined us for our Easter celebration.  Joseph made yummy sweet potatoes and together they hid candy for the hunt.  Thanks
JOSIE

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stake conference
  •  my savoir, my employer
  • Jesus took care for his mother while on tree cross
  • pray for dan in his calling
  • when having trials...open thes criptures

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